When I blog about a book, it’s usually one that I’ve read and enjoyed, especially books that I think will help my readers in their businesses or their lives.
Today I’m going to do something different… I’m going to write about a book that I haven’t read yet! But after doing my first webinar Tuesday night, it’s jumped to #1 on my list, and here’s why…
The book is called Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.
It’s scary how fear and anxiety can so have such power over you. Doing a webinar was a long overdue project for me. I always found some excuse to put it off. This is where having a business coach who holds you accountable comes in handy. Carrie would not take no for an answer, so despite my anxiety about doing my first webinar, I scheduled it, and I told people I was going to do it, so there was no backing out.
And still, right up to the last minute, I kept hoping for divine intervention – maybe a meteor would take out the internet, and I would be off the hook. Or maybe a power failure would save me? Ridiculous, right?
I’ve always had anxiety issues, and I reacted to the pressure just as you might expect. I was on a tight deadline to write the webinar script, and I started having minor panic attacks regularly… right up to the big one when we couldn’t get the sound to work, and the webinar was supposed to start.
Anxiety generates adrenaline, and adrenaline does terrible things to your body! The night of the webinar, I was so wired that I couldn’t sleep until after 2 am. Then I guess the adrenaline was still flowing, because I woke up really early and was dozing off all day. I’m still trying to get my sleep schedule straightened out!
So here is where you should learn from my example. Though I was really anxious and fearful about whether I could do it (thank you, low self-esteem), I still did it. I could have found some excuse like “Oops, I’m sick!” or “Oh no, family emergency…” but I didn’t.
And though I haven’t even read the book yet, I was inspired by its title – Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. And I thought, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” I think it’s tremendously helpful to remember times when we were afraid and that when it was all over, we somehow had survived.
When I’m having a panic attack, it helps me to think about, of all things, a quotation from Dune, a science fiction novel (and 1984 film by David Lynch):
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
So what are you afraid of? I’m not talking about fear of terrorism or climate change or crime. But is there something you want to do… or you know you SHOULD do… that you haven’t done because you’re afraid? Afraid to fail, afraid of the consequences, afraid that it will be too hard or take too long?
Although I’ve had Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway on my reading list for quite a while, I think it’s time for me to read it and take its message to heart… preferably before my next webinar!